Changing The Things I Can

"Lord grant me the serenity to accept
the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference."

-St. Francis of Asisi

When we stumble upon circumstances that are not up to us to shape, we have to learn to recognize when it is time to let go. Struggling against the way things are will not make things easier, futile resistance only drains your strength and gets you nowhere.

Instead, focus your energy and intention on those things that are at your disposition to influence and affect. Use that opportunity to create a positive alteration.

Chances are we will confuse the two now and then, but sooner or later we will begin to recognize when it feels like we're forcing someone or something and it ends up being really frustrating, contrary to when things flow in harmony with your addition and naturally shift along with you in effortless ease.

With practice and conscious action, we will learn how to distinguish the two and invest on the second.

Not everything is up to me, but I can make the best of what is!

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

How Much Twitter Is Right for You?

This post was written for TweetValley.com

There are infinite uses one can give to Twitter- from online marketing, to sharing interesting information to filling in moments of boredom or loneliness. There are also varying degrees of Twitter usage- there's the user that will go online for 20 minutes a day and check older tweets as mini emails, there's the person who logs on after every break to update others and themselves on the day's happenings, and there are the hard core users who use software like Tweet Deck or have apps on their mobiles to notify them of every tweet possible, audio alert and scheduled tweets included.

Whether you are new to the vast and still growing Twitterverse or already feel established your tweet space, you might have asked yourself this question just how much Twitter is good for you. Here are a few questions that might help you get your answer.


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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

Making Space for the New

This post was written for Intent.com

A lot of us spend time wishing things were different. We want novelty in our lives- in our homes, jobs, relationships, you name it. However we keep clinging on to old things, habits and thought patterns that only re-create what we already know.

If we want our lives to be different from anything in our prior existence, if we truly want to freshen things up, we need to make space for it.

Let's say you want to purchase a brand new dining room table that suits your current taste better. You've already got your dining room with an old table that you wish to replace. Can you put the new one in its designated space with the old one still occupying it?

It's the same thing with the rest of our stuff. If you want to update your wardrobe, you're going to need the space in your closet to store the new clothes in, so at least part of the old must go. If you're in an unhealthy relationship and you'd like to improve your love life, sometimes the answer is letting go of the damaging one (or at least the damaging attitudes), to be able to open the doors to better relating. If there's something you're usually afraid of and you're tired of the way you react to it, you're going to have to investigate and learn new positive approaches that would not work as well if you keep pulling yourself down by continuing to allow and uncontrolled stream of the self-defeating thoughts. You've got to let go of the old to embrace the new.

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

To Maintain Your Purity

Choose what doesn't hurt you or anyone else, what you think would be worthy of God watching you think, do, or say.

No matter what happens in life, or how dark some times may seem, choose to keep your inner light shining, and the lamp of faith will guide the way.

Even when you see no one there, remember you are never alone.

Falling is allowed, but getting up is mandatory.

Continue walking forward.

Many blessings.

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

You Don't Have To Accept Everything

Just because you like or love someone or something, doesn't mean you have to give up who you are to be with them or have certain things.

If, in any case, someone or something requires you to be unfaithful to your values, beliefs and integrity, question it.

What can you offer to life if you have given yourself up for something that's not true to you?

If you negotiate your dignity, you might as well kiss happiness goodbye.

You must respect and love yourself, accept what sustains this and dismiss what threatens this, your self worth.

Live and Let Live

Part of truly appreciating someone is accepting them the way they really are.

When you do this (instead of being fixed on your own mental image of how you would like that person to be) is when you truly start to see their grandeur, to hear their wisdom, to admire their qualities.

Just as things rarely come out exactly the way you plan them, people are almost never the way you define them in your head- sooner or later you will be surprised to see something different, and often better.

When you are constantly comparing your mental list with reality, you will most likely be disappointed. Not because the person is flawed (although no one is perfect, chances are they're tons better than your limited image of them) but because they will not rigidly fit into your closed off made up profile.

Just as intellectuals who have too many books in their head often think they know more about life than God herself, how do you expect to know more about the other person than that very person?

Allow them to show you. Relax. Sit back and enjoy what you see, hear and receive. You will begin to see so much that you were missing. You will begin to love not who you think they should be, but who they really are.

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

Happy Autumn!

No matter how your summer was, we've just begun a new season!

Here is a chance to cool down and look at what we'd like to change with a calm and centered mind.

A chance to have a fresh start!

So I'd like to wish you the best in all of your new beginnings.

May this be a time of blessings, of growth, and reaffirmation of this simple truth: you are a wonderful being.

Now, show it to yourself, and it will naturally be visible to others!

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

Freely

If you want something, you've got to allow Creation the time and space to create it.

 

If you hoard or cling to a seed without sowing it or watering it or letting it go through it's own development process, then you are literally killing the life of it before it can even be born.

 

Let's be smart.

 

You can have your intentions, you can and should take care of your responsibilities, but you also have to set the part that's up to other co-creators free of your hold, and even your gaze.

 

Let it flow and let it go. You give what you have to offer, and you lean back and allow the receiving to take place whenever and however it should.

 

Release your attachments and expectations, you might be surprised to find out that it might come in other ways that you could not even imagine.

 

The universe has its ways, and the life giving force within everyone and everything has the necessary mechanisms to put it all to work.

 

Be at peace. Give (freely), and you shall receive.

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

Unleashing Creativity In All Directions

Ever had that feeling of being in the zone? I feel that when I am meditating.

I also feel that way when I am singing, like I'm at the right place, at the right time, like the whole universe is doing exactly what it's supposed to do, every revolving planet, every shining star, every single vibrating atom in harmony with my voice...

I'm grateful for having the opportunity to use my instrument to share joy with my friends and anyone else who is open is open to contagium.

Emotions are contagious, you know. And the good ones move through us faster than lightning.

I feel it too when I watch my friends express their own artistic talents.

I also feel that way when I am living my truth, when I flow with the moment and am innocently observing and accepting the amazing ways life has of unfolding.

I don't need to know what's going to happen tomorrow. I still have my goals and my plans, while remaining open to finding something better along the way.

Not knowing exactly how things will play out gives me the perfect opportunity for creating the most awesome reality I could ever imagine- or even better!

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

Up, Up, and Upper I Go!

It is not a surprise that along the path of life you get hit very hard in the head when you fall against the occasional bump on the road.

Sometimes it's a smooth stumble and you're back at your feet in a second, and other times it's simply the most awkward display of imbalance.

Sometimes you can learn the lesson before the opportunity is over, and other times you screw it up in every single way imaginable, and a few others that only you've been able to conjure.

Sometimes, despite your clumsiness you will find you get second chances, and other times it might appear as if you don't - because it won't be in the same place, or the same circumstances, or the same people...

But in all cases, there's always after, and what you choose to do with it.

The other day I said to myself, I have two directions to move to from here, I can go up or I can go down.

I must say, miracles never cease to exist, wonders are ever present, and the whole universe is constantly hugging me, even when I slip a little, it just hugs me right back.

Keep your eyes open and enjoy every moment, and I'm sure you'll be glad you are watching.

There's always the little things here and there... Sunrise, smiles, dates, friends, music, new ideas, fun things to do. And there's always the big things like love and joy and progress and meditation and yoga... and above all, God.

So, whenever I hit a bump, what do you think I choose?

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

The Possibilites Are Endless

I have the potential to be any way I choose to be right now. This potential is infinite.

 

Most likely, I will automatically choose from what I already know, but then I wonder...

 

If what I have already chosen before has produced certain results, and, in some cases those aren't exactly the things I wanted to create for myself in the first place, then would it be wise to select the same way of being, if it will materialize what I've already seen?

 

I might not be entirely comfortable with a drastic change all of a sudden, but I can surely explore new possibilities, bit by bit, I don't have to wait any longer, I can certainly begin, in my mind. And that is where creation starts, the first step toward realization.

 

"We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are." Max De Pree

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Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

The Secret to Being Attractive

"Romance... begins when you can show your soul to another person.

"The secret to being attractive, if one consults the past record of human experience, is remarkably simple. It is summarized in an aphorism from the Latin poet Ovid, who said, "To love, be lovable."

"A lovable person is someone who is natural, easy with himself or herself, radiating the simple, unaffected humanity that makes anyone truly attractive. [...]

"The shift in perception happens not by changing who you are but by seeing who you are and then shining it forth. If you were able to exhibit the full grandeur of your being, your whole life would be a romance, one long love story dedicated to ecstasy and joy. [...]

"Nothing is more beautiful than naturalness. It alone contains the mystery and allure that spark romance. [...]

"To be authentic, you have to be everything that you are, omitting nothing. Within everyone there is light and shadow, good and evil, love and hate. The play of these opposites is what constantly moves life forward. [...]

"Being desirable means being comfortable with your own ambiguity.

"The ultimate ambiguity that each of us expresses is not that we can be both good and bad, loving and unloving, but that we are spirit and flesh at the same time. Nothing could be more ambiguous than this, or more alluring."

-Excerpt from "The Path to Love" by Deepak Chopra

Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

Things to Keep In Mind These Days

- Live the present fully

- Be more humble (watch the ego)

- Accept things as they happen and move on

- Respect myself and others even more

- Love is the greatest religion (God is Love)

- Speak the truth everyday more

- Practice periods of silence

- Focus on the positive, there's always a solution

- Be ready to handle the unexpected

- No matter what happens, go with the flow

- Release attachments, be open to the new

- Treat myself superbly so I can do this with others

- Give more and be more selfless

- Thank God every single moment

- Even one can of milk can make a difference

- Stay calm inside, regardless of the outside

- Ask "How can I help?" instead of "What's in it for me?"

- Continue learning

Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

Obstacles Are Opportunities...

... to get things done.

They tell you exactly what you need to put your efforts in to get closer to achieving your goals and constructing the life you wish to create for yourself.

They are not the real obstacles. Only your excuses are.

So, start tackling and moving forward.

Chelle
michers.blogspot.com

The Good In Everyone

No matter who you are or what you have done, there's always a positive aspect to you, some good you have done, some smile you have shared, some love you have felt.

 

Sometimes, when we are offended, we are too quick to focus only on the other's faults in such a way that it becomes a wall that does not permit you to see beyond and connect with and appreciate all the good stuff inside.

 

Well, let me ask you something, ARE YOU PERFECT? Would you like it if someone you care about only saw your flaws and lost all ability to appreciate and love and admire you? I'm sure we all want to be forgiven and make up for our mistakes and be given the chance to make things right again most of the time.

 

So, let's try to remember this when we are going to evaluate someone else. One thing is to be realistic and learn the lessons to prevent specific mistakes from being unnecessarily repeated, and another thing is to close all doors, create a storm and only see the night when the sun is shining in your beautiful face.